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July 5, 2010
Live AWAKE!
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April 12, 2010
One of the best ways to make a positive impact on our environment and also on our national healthcare costs is to change what we eat. Watching Food, Inc. reaffirmed for me that the food industry is broken, and it is what is in the food that is creating the unhealthiest people on earth, ever.
The largest food producing companies in the US are creating a system that encourages sickness, obesity, and disease. Some may say it is the fault of the consumers that we buy the unhealthy foods. This is simply not the only contributing factor. As the movie points out, corn in this country is highly subsidized by our government because of our government policies. Corn then ends up being cheap to buy, and cheap is always best for companies whose only goal is the bottom line. Thus products like soda, containing high fructose corn syrup, end up being less expensive to buy then juice.
Not only do we have the issue of the chemicals in the food that cause a range of problems, but the treatment of the animals is deplorable and so is the treatment of the workers. This all seeps into the foods we eat and consume. My grandmother was raised on a farm. Slaughtering the animals was part of life on the farm. However, the animals were raised and treated with respect and compassion. No longer. Animals are virtually tortured everyday in order to provide $1 menu meals. If we are what we eat, it is no wonder that our society seems to have become more aggressive, less caring, and less respectful of others.
So what can we do? For one, change what you eat and consume. At every meal make a choice to eat consciously. Encourage your friends to get educated. Teach them. Watch Food, Inc. Support local farmer’s markets. It is the right thing to do not only for immediate health gains, but also to make lasting changes in the quality of all our lives.
I have stayed away from meat/poultry for years, eating primarily vegetables with fish occasionally. One of the key additions to my diet has been drinking fresh vegetable Green Drink, daily. Here is one of my favorite recipes.
Green Drink
(Using the Vitamixer blender produces the best results. Buy organic when possible)
1 Head of Collard Greens
1 Head of Kale
1 Bunch of Parsley
2 Carrots
1 Apple
1 Lime or Lemon
6 Tablespoons Hemp Oil or Flax Seed Oil
Remove all the hard stems of the greens. Give all the greens a coldwater wash and add a little apple cider vinegar to the water. Rinse thoroughly. Add all the ingredients, with lots of water and blend to a juice. You can blend together varying amounts of the vegetables at a time and mix it all together at the end. This recipe can be made in a variety of ways with a variety of vegetables. Add dandelion greens, broccoli, avocado, or ginger or to change it up. Enjoy!
March 17, 2010
Life is Yours to Live
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We humans are collectors. From the time we are little we pick up countless items along the way and give them meaning. Some of these inanimate objects stay with us a while, like my clown flannel blanky that was so loved that only a few threads remained when it was finally given up. Other items get picked up and put down quickly but still our inquisitive minds examines them to see how they fit or don’t fit what and who we want ourselves to be and be represented by.
Our experiences are much like this too. As we grow up all of us have impacting moments along the continuum of life. Some are big like when a parent leaves, other times the moments are small like when you are told to stop asking so many questions by a teacher. Different from the items we collect, our experiences don’t ever leave us they simply build up our beliefs and the patterns of responses that we learn to operate under. From the beliefs that no longer serve us, we react in fear, anger, confusion, etc. As we go through life, these become the fallback emotions we operate from all the time. Yet most of us don’t even know we are doing this. We get good functioning out of our child-like responses that we spend very little time consciously creating authentic grown up reactions and behaviors. This allows us to not take responsibility for ourselves and when we live without self-responsibility we basically never reach the potential of our spirit. We operate constantly from two extremes never coming into middle long enough to make a different healthier choice for our actions.
For example, a ranting boss can so remind us of a yelling parent that we might immediately fall into a place of fear. As the fear comes up we then compensate to try to get out of feeling fearful, because our spirit does not feel good in a state of fear. So we start reacting in ways we never would dream we would behave as a mature whole adult. We try to over please the tyrant or we yell back, or a whole slew of possible reactions based on how we learned to behave in those early childhood pattern forming days. These decisions are split second decisions. We don’t formally think it through it just happens.
As you look around most of us are continuously acting out of some child formulated behavior. We can’t seem to lift ourselves out of seeing that actually those behaviors those reactions are not really of this moment in time. But how do we begin to stop acting out of these child-like ways and start claiming our own destiny, clear of illusion. To pause and realize, “I am not naturally a person that yells back”, and therefore I can choose an alternate course of action.
For one you need to decide that what you are doing now isn’t working and that maybe why you are doing it is not based entirely on the reality of the situation at hand. You also need to begin to observe yourself and get to know yourself beyond the constrictions of your past. With meditation you can begin to develop a special relationship to your mind and see that it is a vast place with much opportunity for being in the now and creating a different future. With yoga you can begin to sink deeply into locked feelings in the body that are connected to those impacting moments of your past. As you stay with sensations in the body you can observe yourself in those moments of the past with clearer keener observation. Through coaching you are able to see yourself as whole, authentic and reclaim responsibility for your self. It is through meditation, yoga and coaching conversations you learn to voice and manifest a life of wholeness, action and expanded consciousness.
When you live your life as a self-responsible adult, life is not done unto you. You have the ability to shape your choices and your reactions, free from the limitations of your past. When you are self-responsible, you see others differently too and can be there for them in a new way, not expecting from or controlling them. Life becomes yours to live.
January 26, 2010
UNcompromise Your Life-Take a Retreat!
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Sometimes the best use of your money, time, energy is investing in yourself, and one of the best ways to do that is by taking a retreat, a journey to get to know yourself on a deeper level. Yoga and health retreats can be powerful healing experiences because they provide an opportunity to put the demands of life on hold. When I went to my first retreat as a participant about 9 years ago, I was having what John Mayer so aptly coined “a quarter life crisis.” I was workaholic, a complete coffee addict, and on a path that if I continued would lead to a very unhealthy life. The stress of my life was sucking all of my inner energy and had severed the connection to my own true desires and wants.
Knowing I needed to do something to break the cycle I was in, I signed-up for a retreat in Costa Rica. As I journeyed, alone (and I do recommend going alone on a healing retreat), my biggest concern was how I would handle being cut-off from my morning coffee ritual. Terrified of not being able to have my fix, I packed some green tea for an emergency. Landing in a location that is designed for a yoga retreat is like landing on a magical part of the planet, where there are no obstacles to peace, healing, vitality and inner growth. For the first few days of my week of twice daily yoga, walks, and healthy eating minus coffee, I slept. Literally if I wasn’t in a session or eating, I was sleeping. Getting in touch with how deeply tired you are from the actions and behaviors of your daily life is very eye-opening (pun intended).
On about day 2 of the retreat came the headaches of serious caffeine withdrawal. I was forced to face my addiction to coffee. Feeling that I would not make it through the day, I drank one of the contraband green tea bags I had brought with me and went to practice the second session of yoga for the day. On my mat, I was able to observe my fingers shaking from the caffeine. I noticed my heartbeat racing and my mind jumping around like it was on a pogo-stick. There was no connection to calm, no sense of peace. I was all over the place. In that moment of awareness, I gave up coffee. I could see just how negatively my body and mind responded to caffeine and decided withdrawal symptoms were easy compared to a life of dependency. The magic of a retreat is that letting go and shedding of negative behaviors is easy. The environment supports positive change. All I had to do when the headache came was go lie in hammock, watch the hummingbirds and breathe. By day 4 I had no more headaches.
Practicing yoga twice a day, meditating, eating clean healthy foods, walking in nature all invoke a sense of stillness. Stillness that we don’t have in our regular lives, ever. Deep stillness brings you insights you cannot have when the mind is cluttered when the body is bogged down by toxins, and the spirit is heavy. Going on a healing and yoga retreat allows for the truth to unfold in your life. It lets you see your life with your internal vision, from a what is truly right for me perspective.
Leaving the retreat with a new body, a new mind, a happier spirit, I made two very small choices-that I wanted more yoga in my life and that I wanted more control over my time. With these two choices and a sense of staying true to myself, my life unfolded in a way I could not imagine in the years that followed that first retreat. Some changes were immediate. Coffee never came back into my life and upon returning home, I was able to finally make a decision to quit my job which no longer suited me. Other changes developed over time. Yoga not only became my lifestyle it became my profession. My body continued to change as I shed physical and emotional weight. Going on a retreat is an investment, it costs money but the return on investment is high. You regain yourself and your health. By choosing to go on a retreat you choose to put yourself first. This is not selfish or self-indulgent in fact it has quite the opposite effect. When you invest in yourself first you are able to more fully show up for others in your life.
This April 10-17th, join the wonderful teachers of B1 Community in Costa Rica, for the Living Healthy Retreat at the Blue Spirit Center. In a time of uncertainty, strain, stress it is the best vacation you can take that will keep giving back to you even after you go back home. During our retreat we employ the B1 Community Self-Care Solutions™ to begin to dramatically shift your relationship to your body, mind, spirit and health. During our week together, we will engage in transformative yoga classes, inspiring walks, awakening meditation, coaching conversations, nutrition strategy classes and more! Also joining us is Wade Morissette, a world-renowned kirtan singer and author of Transformative Yoga: Five Keys to Unlocking Inner Bliss. Don’t miss this opportunity to UNleash your spirit, UNlock your blocks, and UNcompromise your life.
Visit www.b1community.com to learn more or email retreats@b1community.com to register today!
January 10, 2010
Building your Boundary
Posted by vydabielkus under Coaching, Relationships, Transformation, Yoga | Tags: Coaching, Health, oprah, Relationships, spirtuality, Wellesley, Yoga |Leave a Comment
When I graduated Wellesley in 1997, we were very fortunate to have Oprah Winfrey as our commencement speaker! Yes, having Oprah as your graduation speaker is something you never forget. Women from the class of ’97 still quote various parts of her speech that was so full of helpful life’s nuggets that there was no way to forget its impact. One of those nuggets I often recall (especially in talking with my sisters) is, “the first time he is a jerk believe him.” It is a simple lesson, but not one that is so easily practiced.
Yesterday I was watching the Oprah show, and once again in trying to help others avoid loss, hurt and betrayal, Oprah evoked the life lesson Maya Angelou taught her and I had heard at graduation (in slightly different words): “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them. If a person lies, he/she is liar. If a person cheats, he/she is a cheater.”
Hearing her talk about this idea again I questioned why is it so difficult for many of us to live by this principle? Why when someone shows us their true colors do we either ignore our intuition or lower our standards of what is tolerable for us in the way we are treated? Of course the person who is doing the misleading has their own demons to work out, but really in order to “believe others the first time” we must turn the mirror on ourselves.
When we choose not to believe someone when they show us who they are, we are living with a depleted spirit. With little belief in ourselves, in our own power, we lower the standards of how others treat us. Our need to feel loved and our need for approval keep us tied to people who might be saying one thing but doing another. When we are living from a part of ourselves that feels less than, unworthy of love, in fear of the unknown, we are targets for those who manipulate and keep us in a cycle of lies.
When we are seeking approval from another, our awareness is externally focused. Everything we do is linked to the other’s acceptance of us which keeps us living from our ego. We live in fear of losing what we have built up in our minds to have. In this situation, fear has severed our connection to our own inner knowing. When you live in fear and without a strong definition of self, a gigantic red flag may be flying right in front of your face and you won’t see it (or you will choose to ignore it).
Another clever game we play with ourselves is when we see that someone is acting like a jerk toward someone else we rationalize that they wouldn’t ever treat us that way. This rationalization is absolutely illogical. A person is who they are, period. But when we feel powerless within our own being, our ego is seduced into this rationalization. We avoid having to look at the painful part of ourselves, which feels powerless and keeps supporting the illusion.
Luckily, our lives are healing spiritual journeys. Many of our closest relationships come in to heal those parts of ourselves that don’t serve us, that take us away from the essence of who we are, away from God. This is why more often than not it is after the experience of disappointment, hurt, and betrayal that we recognize we have ignored all the signs, that we indeed had not “believed them the first time.” When this pain stops us we have an opportunity to dig deep and heal the soul.
There are many ways to begin to heal the spirit from imposed limitation and fear. Going to yoga classes and starting to awaken the body is key. Yoga helps us open up to sensations in our body which are great indicators of what is actually going on in any given moment. Even more supportive would be working with a coach who helps us examine how feelings of unworthiness, powerlessness or of not being loveable stem from childhood beliefs that no longer have to determine our present actions. With the coach we can begin to set out forward action to diminish the fear. So if you find yourself struggling in a present relationship (with anyone, these emotions are not limited to intimate partners) or in one that has completed, take action meditatively in yoga or in coaching conversations to heal yourself so the next time (not the 5th time!), you are ready, able, and willing to “believe them the first time.”
January 4, 2010
New Year, New Decade “Think Different”
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It is that time of year when we look back and assess the last year, and recommit to changing the usual list of things we are unhappy with within ourselves. I resolve to “lose weight”, “stress less” “find a better job” etc. The list of resolutions typically is full of goals that will never be met and are easily broken and forgotten. We make a resolution to eat healthy, and as the words come out of our mouths we reach for that second cookie. It seems that we love to set up ourselves up for failure. We set out these unrealistic resolutions because we intrinsically know we won’t reach them, because the same thinking that stopped us last time will stop us again this time.
I was never much for resolutions because of this insane cycle. It did not appeal to me to psyche myself up for failure, because I knew whatever went on my list would not be on it by March. It is just the way life works. The distractions are too great. So this year I have decided to replace the tradition of resolutions with defining a motto to live by for the year. A phrase so potent that whenever I call upon it, I will be reminded of what really matters to me and therefore, make better choices and take better action.
The other day at the gym I picked up Fortune Magazine who declared Steve Jobs, the genius behind Apple, the CEO of the decade. The magazine declared the fact that Jobs revolutionized not only the computer industry but also the music industry (itunes) and the movie industry (Pixar) while surviving two life altering diseases, nothing short of awesome. It went on to examine how Apple is Jobs and Jobs is Apple. Apple is what it is because Jobs is who he is. Now this inspired me. It made me think of all the individuals who, because of who they ARE change the world. As they define themselves they define the world around them. We actually all do this. The world around us is what it is because of what we create it to be through our thoughts, beliefs and actions. It just seems to me most of us don’t think outside of the limits of our own environments to really be able to impact the world.
Many, many years ago, before the iphone, before the Apple comeback, there used to be a huge vertical billboard on Sunset Blvd. in LA. It was a photo of John Lennon and at the bottom a small picture of a rainbow colored, half eaten apple with two words to the right of the apple “Think Different”. It was part of Apple’s ad campaign that featured change agents of our planet, like Lennon, Gandhi, Graham, Picasso, etc. These ads had nothing to do with technology or Apple’s products. At the time, Apple was off the radar. But as the article explained Jobs was responsible for the campaign. It was a charge. Apple had the courage. It was going to think different and therefore change the world.
So this year in 2010, I am resolving to “Think Different”~to use the power of my mind to radically change my every day and therefore my world. It seems everything that I would want to make resolutions about can be changed with this simple phrase. If I want to create a life that I don’t have now, I need to fill my mind not with the same thoughts I have now, I need to “Think Different”. Looking back over the past year, I have to admit my mind was often caught in sticky thoughts. I had too many thoughts of my past, the hurts, the cants, the justifications of why things are a certain way, guilty thoughts, shame thoughts, thoughts that were definitely not different and definitely not taking me into a different tomorrow. So instead of figuring out how exactly my life is going to change, I resolve to think different to let a different life find me.
If I want to lose weight, I need to think differently about why I might be holding on to the weight or what keeps me from exercising. For example in the past perhaps I used to think I have no choice, “I have to work so I can’t exercise.” I can change my statement to “I have to work and I want to exercise”. All of a sudden I have a choice, and now I can rearrange my day to allow both to happen successfully. When you start noticing your thoughts, it is almost amazing how much of them are related to past events, things that cannot be changed, or have absolutely nothing to do with you. By noticing how little time you are actually thinking about the things that bring you personal enjoyment, you can begin to actively change the landscape of your mind. As you do this you begin to practice pulling out weeds that are literally sucking the life out of you and replace them with seeds of sunflowers.
If I want to have a different world around me and I want to be different, I first need to start with my mind and “Think Different”. I am now so seriously committed to this that every time an unproductive, unsupportive, negative or old stupid thought enters my mind I resolve to “Think Different.” As I do this, I can actually sense an inner smile that makes the things that seemed impossible somehow plausible.
So find your power phrase. Create a personal slogan. Make sure it resonates with you and holds the power of a high school cheer at homecoming. Let who you truly are be what the world gets to see and experience. If we all committed to this, the world would be a totally different place by the end of 2010.
December 20, 2009
Meditate~Live 12 Years Longer!
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In Oprah Magazine, January 2010, there is a dramatic illustration from the new book The Visual Miscellaneum, by David McCandless. It illustrates clearly, based on research gathered by the National Center for Health Statistics, Public Library of Science, National Institutes of Health, and the American Heart Association, that meditation (daily relaxation exercises) can increase BOTH men and women’s lifespan by upwards of 12 years. Other things such as drinking a glass of red wine will increase a man’s lifespan by upwards of 4 years (not the same for women) and staying trim will increase a lifespan by about 6 years for both men and women. But nothing adds the years onto your life like meditation.
If you aren’t meditating, it is time to start. Meditation is not prayer. It is not sleep. It is not a power nap. Meditation is the active process of releasing thoughts. If you have never meditated before you probably have very little understanding as to how many thoughts your mind is consumed with at any moment, and how those thoughts are impacting your actions, your life and therefore your health. The act of meditating not only shifts the mind but what the statistics show is that it also shifts the body. The research indicates that meditation may cut the risk of death from heart attach by 30 percent and cancer by 49 percent. This is dramatic. No other tool, food, vitamin, activity provides such results.
The strong correlation between meditation and increased lifespan, indicates just how powerful our minds are. Often times when we hear of how people healed themselves from unfathomable conditions or events, it is because they used their mind to overcome the challenges. Cultivating a process of mediation allows you to connect into the power of the mind. Meditating impresses the notion that the mind can be controlled and therefore used for improving one’s life.
Incorporating this daily practice requires no special equipment and doesn’t cost anything to do. 20 minutes twice a day is all you need to gain more then a decades worth of life. This is less time then watching an hour of your favorite TV show a day.
When people start mediating they often are confused by what they are doing. It is like they are waiting for some big message from on high. But it is much, MUCH more simple. You are consciously choosing to sit with yourself for a specified length of time, typically somewhere in the range of 20 minutes. Now there are various techniques of mediating and finding a process that works for you might take a little research. For example, you can meditate with a mantra, by focusing on your breath, or simply observing and releasing thoughts.
As my meditation has become an increasing daily practice, I have noticed the following (the list could go on and on, but here are some significant changes I have noticed):
- I am happier.
- I live in the moment more, rather than in the past or future.
- I am a thousand times more productive.
- I have better blood sugars, have lost weight. I look and feel better.
- I make better choices.
- I am more self-accepting.
In the world we live in today, with stress looming just around the next corner, it is imperative that meditation become a daily practice. Check out B1 Community’s virtual classes to learn meditation http://www.b1community.com/Self-CareSolutionsClassesforIndividuals.php. Start living longer today.
December 14, 2009
Posted by vydabielkus under Law of Attraction, Uncategorized | Tags: Coaching, Law of Attraction, manifestation, spirituality, Yoga |
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Let the universe fulfill the orders
Becoming very clear and defined in your thoughts and choices leads to the power of manifesting what you want. The problem is most of us are so confused around what we want that the messages that we send out to the universe cannot be received. The static is too loud and the message is lost. You see the universe works exactly like it is supposed to, what you put out you receive back (most of the time by ten fold). The universe is like a huge fulfillment center just waiting to fulfill the orders it receives. However, it is up to you to be loud and clear with the message so that it can be received and fulfilled.
From a young age I have known intuitively that there is a way to demand from the universe what is our birthright. Early on I read books by Louise Hay (the queen of positive affirmations) and others about the power of manifesting and the laws of attraction. All of them offered great advice and hope about how one can take control of one’s thoughts and therefore one’s destiny, but no matter how much I tried to follow the simple instructions, I could not tap into this creative force of attracting.
As my life went on I did notice that the more I let the universe work for me, and the less I tried to do something the more successful I was. Often times the deepest work I did on myself centered on how to replace reaching for something with letting it come to me.
But over the last year and a half my ability to manifest and attract into my life what I truly need has been profound. And so I began to think what was it that really changed for me that allowed my messages to finally be received and fulfilled by the universe. I will not proclaim it simple, because actually it is not that simple to give up old ways of thinking and doing things and replace them with a fresh way, an uncharted way of creating your life. But I will say that as you see the law of attraction working in your life the more you rely on it, like a good friend, it never disappoints.
So although I don’t think it is simple, I do think there are simple steps I can share that helped me become someone who can tap into creating her life rather then living by the consequences of her life.
1. You need to believe in yourself fully.
Interestingly enough, my ability to create and manifest really became second nature to me when I finally gave up being defined by others and having low self esteem. It seems that we cannot manifest when we are grid-locked by what others think. You need to become fully clear on who you are with yourself. How do you do that in a world that doesn’t teach us how to do this? For me steadfast belief in myself came from some serious hard times that I had to go through. Betrayals by loved ones and friends, forced me to find my inner strength, as I learned to stay strong in the choices I was making for myself. I finally was able to let go of the part of me that did things for other people’s love and approval, because having done that for so long in the end did not bring me love. In fact it brought me just the opposite-tremendous pain. So although traumatic events in life are not pleasant when they are happening, they can be great fertilizer for actually growing into your own true person.
2. The message needs to be CRYSTAL clear.
Creatively manifesting really only works when your message is completely clear and has no feelings of fear, doubt, and/or confusion attached to it. Daily our mind has millions of thoughts, and when you want to create something you need to begin to significantly alter the mental chatter. Your true choices cannot be clear in a muck of thoughts. You need to begin to distinguish your thoughts and begin to eradicate the negative ones that are pulling down the positive one. Only recently I realized that I was see-sawing constantly between negative and positive thought. This I can assure you confuses the universe completely. And so it cannot send back to you what you want, because you are not sending a clear message. It is not that I was see-sawing outwardly between positive and negative emotions, no; it was that my inner world was constantly going back and forth between a positive thought and negative one. But becoming deeply aware of this, I began to also see that I could control which thoughts I allowed to be present and which ones actively chose to cognitively dissolve. I consciously began to pronounce the positive thoughts and replace the negative ones.
3. You need stillness.
Our lives are full of noise. This is not a conducive environment for one’s authentic desires to be heard. You need to deeply listen to yourself to be able to hear what will make you truly happy. Practicing yoga and meditation brings about deep stillness and creates a quality of listening. However it is not at these times that you create what you want. During these times you are shedding what you don’t need and are cultivating the space that will allow the truth to shine through and be heard.
4. Listen and believe what you hear.
When you have something you want to create at hand, the thought process is not linear. It is more that “the thought” of something to be manifested becomes the more distinct thought in your mind. All other thoughts in that moment are no longer present or important. The manifestation thought holds so much power because it is authentic. Now if you aren’t ready to believe in the law of attraction your thoughts won’t have any place to take hold, and become the most prominent thought. Your mind will be like Teflon, nothing will stick. You want to instead let the thought that comes from deep stillness to grow into reality. Therefore you need to believe in it. If you don’t, I refer you back to step 1. You will never believe in your power to create if you don’t believe in yourself. Often times it is in moments between actions that the space is there for these thoughts to appear. For example, I have found right after meditation as I transition into my next activity a time where more authentic truths begins to reveal itself in cognitive thought. Or when I am driving moving from one prominent activity to another, or as I move from a dream state to one of being fully awake are also times I have been able to cognitively structure my thoughts, so pay attention to the transition time.
5. Start small, acknowledge and repeat.
Practicing my ability to create what I wanted started small. I started with creating parking spots. For the last several years, I have never struggled to find a parking spot, and I live in a busy city. I pretty much followed the steps above, and never doubted I would get a spot right where I needed it. The universe continuously met my needs. But a very important part of this was to acknowledge and give thanks. This acknowledgement of the law of attraction allowed my mind to begin to carve out the manifestation groove in my brain. I needed to continue to practice small to let the neurons in the brain keep learning how to fire in this new way. Now as I think and create the life I want, I fully acknowledge when the process has worked. After what I want has been realized, I review how I created it to happen. I recall the thoughts. I connect the dots. Again it is important to be grateful and to reinforce this new pathway in the brain.
6. You are always protected so let go of control.
Now when things don’t happen the way I thought they would, I know that I either have not been authentic in my desire or that the universe is protecting me. It is quite magnificent as the outcome is usually better for me anyway, even if in the moment of it not turning out the way I had expected is temporarily disappointing. This has now so often happened to me that it has led me to fully acknowledge that I am protected by the universe. It has given me the ability to let go of controlling anything. Because I can let the universe work for me and I know that not sometimes, but ALL the time it is smarter than I am. To be clear giving up control doesn’t mean I am giving up creating or manifesting or desiring or acting, it means that I am in relationship, in partnership with the universe.
My yoga teacher the other day was taking about how a certain meditation exercise can bring prosperity into one’s life and then said something I loved, “Don’t believe me, don’t take anything I say as truth. Try it for yourself and see.” So I say don’t believe me, but I encourage you to try it for yourself. And if you can’t get past step one, engage a coach and work on your stuff. For as I found out as you believe in yourself more, define yourself more, shine your own light forward more, you will tap into the glorious flow of the universe.
December 1, 2009
Transform Yourself Transform Your World
Posted by vydabielkus under Transformation | Tags: Coaching, spirituality, Transformation, Yoga |1 Comment
It is only through self-transformation that the world around us will change. Radical change will happen when we heal the deepest rifts within ourselves. To bring peace to this world we must bring peace to ourselves. To bring love to this world we must bring love to ourselves. To heal the world we must heal ourselves. This is our collective human charge.
But how do we do this exactly? How do we begin to heal ourselves and our world?
First, we need to stop running away from the lessons the universe is providing us. Life’s hurdles and challenges are wonderful opportunities for healing to occur. But most of the time, we run away from anything that makes us feel even the slightest bit out of control or uncomfortable. We ignore pain, push it away, ignore it, stuff it down, we do everything we can to avoid it. But the funny thing about pain, the more we ignore it, the more it erupts like a volcano when it blows. We humans do not move easily toward change. We rather continue to live in lies then to change the status quo, perhaps because we don’t know what will be there when the lies are no longer there. We just can’t seem to bring ourselves to believe that what will be there will be better than the lies. The truth is, once we face and walk through the pain, we can fly.
More and more of us are craving to wake up and have come to expect and accept change as a part of our human experience. By committing to emotional responsibility, we commit to making the change process a daily process so that the world around us begins to change. Yoga, meditation, working with a coach can all be helpful tools to help us heal the deepest wounds of our soul to move forward toward liberation and freedom.
For many of us yoga is often a wonderful entry way into our emotions and getting to know ourselves. Yoga open us up to the part in us that is the observer self. The observer self can look at the myriad of thoughts that are flooding in every moment of every day and see that those thoughts are not us-our true essence. Yoga reminds us that we are feeling beings. As you engage in a yoga practice you can begin to see that the painful thoughts co-exist with the pleasant thoughts. When we have been presented with a challenge in life that is bringing us pain, yoga can create a pathway to the pain so that you can address it and integrate the learning it is offering up to you. This is called healing.
Once we can see our suffering and are holding it, we must do something with it to shift the energy and to release the grip it has on us. Some say you can just release it through more yoga, in actuality you need to integrate it. This can be effectively done with a coach or someone who can authentically hold space for you without judgment or advising. In a B1 Coaching session you are able to take the most stuck energy that is holding you back and explore its origin and integrate it to move beyond it to positive forward action and flow.
The thing most people do not understand is that healing the pain is much better then living with it. Most people seem to think that if they start crying or start feeling they may never stop. The truth is we are in control of our emotions. We do stop crying, and once we integrate and release our limiting beliefs about ourselves we are able to live more authentically and fully. There are more choices available to us than before.
Remember we are not separate from others suffering. We are learning through relating to others. The Indian philosopher, J. Krishnamurti said “What you are the world is, and without your transformation there can be no transformation of the world.” So begin to seek out change, let the feelings in your body lead you toward it, walk through the door of your own transformation and begin to change the world.
